An arranged marriage?

If you are a girl and lucky enough you won't hear anything about marriage till you have crossed 20 years of age. But in some cases especially in India, you will come across relatives more eager for your marriage than your parents, so even if your parents are not interested they get the idea 'uff I have to marry her off'.

These all are just the trailer that we get to see. So when you get pulled into these topics you have to think about things thoroughly because it's not just your life there would be someone you will be sharing your life with for a long period unlike the relationship these days. Talking about today's relationship they don't last long, not that there are no long-lasting relations it's just that whoever I have been in contact with and had a relationship did not last long.

So here comes the topic of the relationship of course the topic is about arranged marriage but there are some things we need to understand about a relationship before going into marriage. When you are in a relationship you get to understand them and build trust first but then even after all these relations start going downhill. Because nowadays people are just looking for people to pass their time and nothing serious. And here comes our favorite line 'people change' and why is that? It's because people are so eager to be accepted by people more and more. But we don't know that by trying to be up to their standard we are just losing ourselves and the most important thing is we can't pretend for so long and we end up being that famous line 'you changed'. And marriage is a lifetime thing how are we supposed to be likable for a lifetime. You need someone who understands you, who loves you the way you are and for those things of course you need time and a bond so strong that you can trust each other with anything.

Moving on to other things what will you do when you don't even know what is your purpose in life. Those people are very lucky who have a clear view and know exactly what they want in life. '20s is the age when we start exploring our options in our career and think about our purpose in our life those are the moments in life when we don't need any distraction.

In a marriage, the number one priority is sharing your time having them as your number one priority. But how can you be someone's priority when you are just concentrating on yourself. Being a life partner you need to understand yourself first then only can you have time to figure others things out. But when you get married early and that too in an arranged marriage you don't understand yourself and even your life partner. Of course, some are so lucky that they get perfect life partner who also understand each other without any efforts. Some are so lucky that they get to grow with their partner and that is the type of bond we need when looking at marriage.

But in today's world, it's better to establish yourself first and then go looking for that perfect someone. Even if its an arranged marriage you need to get to know them and of course their family. Arranged marriage means its always about relatives as I previously mentioned, of course they would say that you need to get married or you won’t get a suitable boy (or should I say a man, but they would exactly say a boy why do you want me to marry a boy because you are typically calling him a boy that means he is young and not mature enough, same goes visa versa)

Marriage for me is so difficult as I have high standards, being a k-drama addict that is expected of me. Of course, I know those are frictional character but I do want such understanding in my life partner and he should know what he wants in his life and should be settled before thinking about any relation. "Oops so many conditions shaadi hogi bhi kya meri? Nahi hui toh koi nahi aakele jeene me koi gum nahi hai…"

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