Friends

Who are your true friends? For some they are the missing siblings, part of the family, mentor but of course they are also our best friends. And of course, these friends are also divided into different types according to our relations with them, like close friends, seasonal friends, conditional friends, 3 am friends, best friends, family friends, chaddi buddies, and like how nowadays people like to call kaminey friends.

We all have our memories with these kinds of friends especially the conditional friends. I have a fair share of these kinds of friends don’t know why but I always attract those who are in need. Always being there for people also has its toll, you start considering that you are good at everything and won't need any help but those are the times when need someone to be there the most.

Friends are the ones we look up to when nobody understands us. There are so many friends in our life but just some stay permanent throughout our life. Of course it hurts when we give our all into the friendship and they just leave us telling we did not do enough for them. They do teach us lessons and give us experiences, but in turn, we raise our walls so high that it becomes difficult for some people to even come near us and we somehow lose people cause we are scared they won't like us the way we are so we try changing ourself not for us but others and this results in us being depressed as we cannot keep up with the facade long enough.

Normally the friends we met during our childhood days become our best friends. They are those friends who were there through thick and thin, they know the reason why we are the way we are. I have always looked for friends who understand me but got hurt in return as they have a motive in becoming friends with me. Surrounded by such people you know you can't trust people who are near you and end up taking time to know people around you resulting in fewer friends. But those are the people who were there or rather will be there for you.

Those people are the once you should avoid who you think are just there for their benefit or rather talk to them when you need to talk to them. I might be selfish in saying that but why do I waste time for people who won't even spare some time from their daily schedule. Do you have any friends who take the initiative to talk to you and I don't mean when they are lazing around have nothing better to do? When they have something happy or sad to share who is the one they call first besides their family is it you? Have they ever called you when you know they should be busy doing their work just out of concern that you have reached home safely? I always get a call from my bestie when I don't inform her that I have reached home safely and that's the time when she is to be doing her daily ghar ka kaam. Those are the kind of friends you must be keeping close who understand you with a in your change in your voice, texts, reply….

And then comes the people who are the promise breakers. They might turn out to be good friends but never do any good to you in the long run. These types are the worst who break your trust and would never be there to save you. It would be better to push them away and get less hurt than getting attached and getting hurt mind you that's more hurtful.

Some friends come and go but I have got these wonderful friends who are there for me for my good and bad and being accepted in that way is what a person wants. Someone to correct us when we are wrong in a way we understand that we are doing something wrong ( but of course your mom might have tried doing this but gave up and handed it over to your second friend aka your bestie). That one person who understands what you are going through as they just feel it.

Have you got any friends who are your friends?

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