Indian children a prisoner at their own home?

Young age is the time when we dream things that we want to become, what we truly desire of course those changes as we grow up not only because of our thoughts but also because of family and societal pressure. From a young age, we are told to dream but never given the chance to excel in that field. As time goes by we are told that the field which we are interested in is just our hobby when those are the things that can exactly make our life if nurtured properly. But here we are left thinking that there is no need to pursue things that are not needed for our future.

As children, we are told you need good marks to lead a successful life. Here a successful life means getting top scores and a better paying 9-5 job with enough savings for retirement. To reach this position, to get those good marks we are compared, told we are not good enough for the things we know we are not any better at. At this rate, we get into a race with our friends unknowingly somehow blaming our self for being that good our self, forgetting that we are also good at things that we are kept away from. Parents don't know they are unintentionally redirecting the person away from the things they love. While their child is losing their self-confidence and hating themselves for not being that good and when they understand things the relations start to fail. Children lose them in this race and have to find themselves again, learn to love themselves, try to find reasons to be motivated in that field that we are thrown into. Some people get into this race and forget about their self and are too late to find themselves. Even after all this, we have to join in classes in which we don't excel, and become the perfect person we are.

When the time comes to support our self after getting a job. To leave parent's house and learn to do things on our own we are yet again stopped by telling we don't know how the world works. But if you won't allow how are we supposed to learn? You are doing for the betterment of your children but these are the things that make them depend on you for your whole life. Failure is a part of life otherwise we can't learn anything from life, we children just need someone to be there when we fall, no help to get up but just a promise that you would be there for us when we need you the most. We know you love us but through the things you say you always gave us the wrong idea, leading to think that we are just alone in his world fighting those unknown demons.

The same goes for the idea of finding a partner. We have dreams of our ideal type, but parents want someone who they know or rather their relative knows about and do the matchmaking and question us what do we see in the person we decided for ourselves as we don't even know about them. I guess the same thinking process should be applied to the person you are trying to marry your child with the guidance of relative. At least in this process children would not blame their parents that they were wrong. It would be their responsibility to sort out the things.

Parents are important beings in our life. Of course, we love them even we say otherwise. They are our first teacher, role model yet they tell us things that they never applied in their life. If we can change, or rather should change why can't you do that too so our relationship grows stronger. Relatives are always saying that how wonderfully we have grown listening to them, what they don't understand is that we are just sacrificing some things to make them happy, which are slowing killing ourselves from within, being that person who we could never be.